I was watching television last night when Oprah Winfrey appeared and began speaking on one of those evening entertainment shows. She was saying that when people are not calm it is because they want the moment to be something else, so they get anxious, for example because they don’t have time to answer that phone or they are thinking about ten other things they have to do. She said to forget all of this and take time to live in the moment.
Now this was ironic to me because my middle child-Ryan had just said to me that I needed to practice the three B’s. To Breathe and do it consciously. Take deep breathes in and out from your diagram.
2nd he said that I needed to be present when someone is talking to me. Honestly, I think many times I am thinking of so many things that I don’t give someone my full undivided attention. This is something I have had to practice and consciously make myself pay attention at times. I find that sometimes when my daughter is talking I drift off because first, she is always talking and second I am thinking of everything that I need to be getting done. This is not the relationship I want to have with her and I have found myself saying, “what? I’m sorry. Can you repeat that?”
And third he told me to be grateful and to remember to be grateful. I don’t have a problem with that as that is what gets me through every day. I must remind myself how blessed I truly am and believe me I have had my share of problems with sickness, relationships, and employment. Every evening we pray together and give thanks for our day and ask to have everything in our heart and mind removed so that only peace and positive things can be with us and help us to rest and restore our strength to worship him in the morning.
But the fact that the two moments in time were giving me the same information-Live in the moment meant something. I believe that nothing happens without a reason. We may not know what that reason is at the moment but in time it will be revealed to us. I believe that that these three B’s have helped my relationships especially with my children-both grown and younger and what else can you want but great relationships with your children?
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