Recently I spent several days on vacation with some close friends. Even on vacation I realized quickly that the boys were doing more chores than my daughter the same age was. Of course she threw her trash away, but that was about it because I do everything at the house.

It was mentioned that I really need to start making my daughter do more. I sat back and had to agree, not only would it make my life easier, but it would teach her responsibility. Maybe she would even appreciate all of the things that I did on a daily basis as a single mom.

I did a little research and found out what the normal chores are for kids her age:

 Chores for children ages 10 and older.

  • Unload dishwasher.
  • Fold laundry.
  • Clean bathroom.
  • Wash windows.
  • Wash car.
  • Cook simple meal with supervision.
  • Iron clothes.
  • Do laundry.

Now  here comes the hard part, how do I get her to do the chores such as dusting, laundry and so forth. She had to learn that work leans to rewards and privileges. So I’ve established a rewards system.

First I wanted to make sure we had the idea of taking care of her own things down. Yes, I am sad to say that many times if I am going to do laundry I end up picking up a few items from her floor and putting them in the hamper just steps away. So now this made me think of different chores such as:

  • Make bed
  • Put clothes away
  • Change sheets
  • Sweep or vacuum bedroom
  • Put items where they belong

And what about her dog? Why did I always find myself walking and feeding him?

We ended up making a list of everything that needed to be done and then she chose what she wanted from the list. We were both responsible for our own rooms and bathrooms, even though I knew she would need a little help in the beginning. The idea is not to clean perfectly, but to learn and become a responsible person and to have respect for our things.

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I am a single parent of three wonderful children. Two boys who are grown and live out on their own and a teenage daughter at home. I have gone through a lot of drama with divorce and sickness- just to start, but have found my way out of the shadows and I am ready to motivate and empower women with what I have learned. Being unqualified is exactly what makes me qualified. I work full time in the corporate world, I'm a parent, and I resell products on several different online platforms. Last, but the most important, I am a Christ follower at Church By The Glades.